sandbagger

noun - derogatory term for a sexual poser, or sexual “taker,” as opposed to a sexual “giver” - a sexual partner (non-binary, female, male, etc.) who does not actively participate in sexual interaction or activity. A sexually active person who expects that the other participants will do all the work for them. The term is generally used when referring to a sexual partner who claims to be sexually experienced, while demonstrating no proactive contributions to the act of love making itself. The term should never be used in reference to people who are physically handicapped, knowingly sexually inexperienced, role-playing, or are victims of sexual assault.