safe word

An agreed upon word, or set of words, used in any kind of sexual activity, not limited to BDSM play, that is uttered by any participant to communicate that they want the activity to be modified. Sexual safe words could also be called "sexual trust words", and they're an especially good idea in any kind of sex play that is exploratory and/or new to any participant. Different safe words can be created and agreed upon to mean different things, such as, "stop everything, right now!", "slow down, back off!", "don't stop!", etc. Safe words should be ones that a participant isn't likely to use as part of the play. They can be complete code, like "Tibet" (stop), "Chicago" (slow down), and "Glesga" (don't stop), or more obvious, like "red", "yellow", and "green". No kind of sex should EVER be forced on anyone- that's called rape! (which is totally different than indulging in an agreed upon rape fetish)- and the basic idea of safe words is to prevent rape from happening accidentally. Safe words make for hot sex!