pick-me

A pick me (sometimes spelled as pick-me or pickme) is someone who puts down members of their own identity group for validation from others. Commonly used to refer to women (pick me girls), but can also be seen in others. Pick-me men also tend to be performative males, often pretending to relate to women's problems (most commonly in cis men). They often play into stereotypes, disregarding what the people around them are actually like Pick me's can also be seen putting down members of their own ethnicity, sexuality, religion, etc (i.e: a trans person saying non-binary people are weird despite non-binary being under the trans umbrella)