Competitive
Being more [focused] on victory, or the aspects like [domination] of an activity, than actual [enjoyment] of the activity for or by anybody else.
No wonder he/she wasnt thought of as fun to take to parties anymore by the people who once thought he/she was (some had never thought that he/she was fun to take anywhere or be around), he/she really thought of life as nothing but a competition, and had come up with spiritual answers to everything that other people didnt think were competition in life despite not really believing in any of the bullshit answers himself/herself. One thing a competitive [person] doesn't get is how much loss their is in a [war] that is considered won by the group that calls themselves the winners, they're too focused on the [winning] part to get it, despite claiming to be somehow deeper thinking than other people (depth is also no good if it turns into competitive bullshit). Focusing on [something] besides [winning] would actually cause them to look at negative things in themselves and other people and wonder if they're really such a winner that they claim to be, or whether it's just everybody else that is the bully, or the [asshole], or the negative influence.
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