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A manipulative tactic where someone retroactively claims they had planned a generous or thoughtful act but blames the other person's behavior for "ruining" it. This fabricated scenario is used as a trap to evoke guilt, regret, or compliance, even though the supposed gesture was never genuinely intended.
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