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Despite how it looks, irl yan is not a term used to say you are the real depiction of a yandere. IRL YAN is a coined term by the IRL YAN coping community. Reclaiming the term IRL YAN as a way of saying “ I use the term yandere to cope “. This is because yandere comes from the words yanderu , to be mentally ill or sick. And deredere , to be cute and lovey dovey. Being mentally ill is not inherently going to make you violent or a bad person and the community uses the fictional exaggeration of yandere to cope with intrusive thoughts , dissociation , OCD , BPD , NPD , codependency , anxiety , and depression… the list goes on. Though the coping mechanism can be used in a somewhat albeit manner , this doesn’t go for everyone within the community. There are also other communities such as the lovesick recovery community for IRL YANS.
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