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TL;DR:(V) When a person positions themelf as subordinate or submissive, but controls the situation, makes decisions, or dominates others when they are not supposed to. (Full) The term originates from the kink and BDSM community, but could apply anywhere, and refers to an often abusive failure to adhere to one's role as a power dynamic . "Top and bottom indicates the position of a role in a dynamic seperated by a "/", i.e. "Top/bottom" (T/b, Dom/sub, Sado/maso, Parent/child, Employer/employee, Win/lose, etc.) The "top" slash has control, agency, and imposes their will on the "bottom" slash, who yields control, agency, and is only willful in their submission. Topping from the bottom occurs when the bottom does not respect these roles and attempts to take control of the scene or relationship or impose their will on the Top slash, often passive agressively, but sometimes directly.
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