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A term used by queer people on dating apps that means they will date "anyone but cisgender men." An ABCM is interested in cisgender women, trans women, trans men, and nonbinary people, but not men who were assigned male at birth. A less restrictive version of T4T. Depending on the context, this can suggest that they believe transgender men are not real men (once a woman, always a woman), but many bi people hold this boundary only online and would be happy to date a cisgender man they met in person and felt safe with. Others are primarily concerned with reducing the risk of pregnancy.
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