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An 'effeminate' cis man who weaponizes his (pose of) emotional intelligence and pseudo-intellectualism in order to lure women into bed (or, failing that, into sending nude photographs). He presents his extreme horny-ness as a romantic sensibility. If his attempt at seduction proves a failure, the softboi may become defensive and even abusive, displaying an incel-like entitlement to sex. Hobbies include: writing terrible poetry, pretending to read Nietzche, listening to The Smiths, wearing chipped black nail varnish as though its a radical statement, smoking rollies, gas-lighting, wanting a medal for calling himself a 'feminist' while actually being a raging misogynist, proclaiming himself a sex-god while repeatedly failing to locate the clitoris, starting sentences with phrases such as 'you probably have't heard of insert incredibly well-known musician/writer/director'.
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