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A personality designation used typically by lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, softbois, and nonbinary folks to indicate a preference towards enforcing radical vulnerability, i.e., taking on crying, pastel colors, endless ranting over every single feeling and minor slight ever to an unconsenting audience, and obnoxious trends such as "flowercore" and cottagecore" as an aesthetic. Often seen on platforms such as tumblr, Lex, and Instagram as a hashtag or descriptor to really show all of the other queers how much more delicate they are than them. Includes, but is not limited to: Self-victimization, ineffective methods of self care, gaslighting, competitive oppression, poorly chosen Snapchat filters and Instagram stickers, and dumping the emotional labor of dealing with your own self on others.
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