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A woman/man who pretends to be honest, caring, mature and temporarily displays all the qualities you wish for in a woman/man. This woman/man may cook for you, do chores, etc. The goal is to be a standing figure in your life (becoming a need rather than a want). A month to six months down the road, whenever she/he has established a set routine with you, or feels her/his claws are firmly planted in your life, becomes the complete opposite. This woman/man eventually becomes a nagging wife/husband that will constantly tear you down. This woman/man may employ manipulation tactics or disappear for days at a time without contacting you. She/He may also make you jealous on purpose, and alienate you from your group of friends or family. With this separation from friends, family, and hobbies, she builds a more permanent place in your heart and home, hence the term "nester" or the verb "nesting". Building a secure nest out of emotional manipulation and removing rational people in your life guarantees she/he will be difficult to cut out of your life. All these tactics are to remind you that you care about her/him more than she cares about you. This tactic is done to scare you into commitment through insecurities and fear of loneliness. The only way to battle a nester is by: A. Completely cutting her/him off B. Not giving a fuck (remember to smile to have the nester feel insecure about themselves) Have a nester-free life! Written by DM
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